|Margaret Conley Sept 1, 1948 - Aug 28, 2014|
My sisters and I arrived on Friday and started talking about arrangements. My parents are both from KY and want to be buried there. We were planning to make the trip to KY but soon realized my Dad could just simply not make the trip. It is about a 21 hour trip by car for a healthy person. It would have taken us 3-4 days to get there and there were so many other complications. In the end we decided on a small funeral service in New Mexico. My Mom will then be transported to KY for burial.
|My Dad with his sister and my two cousins and sisters and niece|
|Me and my sisters and niece and my Mom's brothers|
And now my sisters and I are still trying to figure out the best solution for my Dad. He needs care and can’t stay in New Mexico by himself, which is what he wants to do. We are working on moving him to Kansas City which has its own challenges. He is terminally ill and on Hospice, so we probably won’t have him with us much longer, especially now that my Mom has gone.
I know several of you are friends with me on Facebook and have given me words of encouragement and love. I appreciate it more than you know. As you can imagine this is an extremely difficult time for my family. If you’ve ever lost a parent then you know a lot of what I’m going through. It’s harder than I even thought it would be. I think back now to times when friends have lost a parent and think I wasn’t compassionate enough or didn’t do enough. I don’t think you can ever really understand these things until you go through them yourself.But I want to end on a high note. My Mom was by far the most positive person I knew. Even though she had been sick for almost 2 years and never really felt great she never, ever complained. You usually didn’t know how bad she was or felt. She was always looking forward to the next day. Always knew the next day would be better. So I know that things are tough now, but will be better. These are just the things in life we all have to go through at some point. I’m just going through them a little sooner than I would have expected. But my Mom’s strength is inside me and I will get through this.
In remembrance of Margaret Ann Conley – Wife, Mother, Sister, Aunt, Daughter, Friend, Light in the world. I love you Mom.
|Picture of my Mom taken last Christmas|